Most of us cheat and are cheated on at some point, whether it gets revealed or not. Here’s how to spot whether your woman has a bit on the side.
Men and women tend to two-time for different reasons: research suggests that the majority of men stray in search of get-the-job-done sex, whereas women want their sizzle with a side of emotional connection.
A study by anthropologist Helen Fisher concluded that women tend to cheat when they are dissatisfied with their relationship as a whole and seek what is missing elsewhere. But when it came to male cheaters, Fisher found that 56% claimed to be “happily married.”
Is it, therefore, easier to spot when a woman is cheating simply by analysing her behaviour in your own relationship?
IF YOUR PARTNER IS GOING TO BE UNFAITHFUL, SHE WON’T BE STRAYING TOO FAR FROM HOME, ACCORDING TO A NEW STUDY.
Quizzing more than 800 subscribers in a survey, adulterous website Gleeden found 62 per cent of women have fantasied about cheating with their neighbors.
Guys have something similar going on: 71 per cent of us are still hanging onto our childhood fantasy – sleeping with the girl next door, literally.
Interestingly, the extra-marital matchmaking site found 31 per cent of their female users had already had an affair with a neighbor.
Sixty-one per cent were one-night stands, while 14 per cent lasted several weeks. Six per cent took part in extended affairs with the guy next door.
If you ever see your European neighbor mowing the lawn without a shirt on, you might have reason to be concerned.
HERE ARE SOME REASONS WHY WOMEN CHEAT!
1. THE CENTRE OF THE UNIVERSE
A few ladies will run in an association with the desire that you are prepared and willing to meet her each impulse. Perhaps she’ll set you up to bomb. Possibly she’s simply pushing her good fortune, perhaps she sticks every one of her deepest desires on one individual and feels defended in taking her wild desires somewhere else when you unavoidably neglect to meet her requests.
2. THE VIRGIN/WHORE
Perhaps she hasn’t even asked you for what she really wants because she’s worried about what you’ll think. Or because she struggles to see you as the father of her kids and the guy who gets super dirty with her. Her primary partner cannot or will not satisfy her, so she goes somewhere else.
3. THE ENDORPHIN JUNKIE
This chronic honeymooner craves the emotional excitement that comes with discovering, desiring, and seducing a new partner.
4. THE FRAGILE EGO
Ladies with a whimsical feeling of confidence can look for confirmation of their value in the sentimental advances of other men. Instead of gathering approval definitively in their current relationship. “Players” frequently need confidence; the consistent need to feel sought by someone else uncovers they are presumably not exceptionally secure in themselves and rather put expanded an incentive on the consideration of the inverse sex.
5. THE “GOOD GUY”
They want to break up but are too scared to be the bad guy, bite the bullet and dump you. Or maybe they are scared of being alone and want to audition your replacement beforehand.
“IT’S ALL YOUR FAULT”
But seriously, at some point you’ll be ready to answer the question: what part did I play in it? Ninety per cent of people who cheat believe that they are justified in doing so. Are you stingy with emotional support? She may feel abandoned and isolated. Remember, intimacy is not just about sex, it’s about non-physical connections, commitment and mutual emotional investment. Have you committed a betrayal that remains unresolved? She may seek revenge. Are you equal partners or does she feel exploited emotionally or practically? With our relationship “roles” becoming evermore flexible and fragmented. Are you on the same page about what each of you expects from the other?